Yesterday, David and I walked into Trader Joe’s and I overheard one of the customer service clerks chatting with a family while he rang them up. He (the TJs employee) was laughing and then asked the family son (who must have been about 7), “what do you want to be when you grow old?”
While I didn’t catch the son’s response, it got me thinking. Clearly Mr. TJ was asking a question along the lines of “what do you want to be when you grow up?” but the use of the word old struck me initially as strange-this 7 year old has no idea what he wants when he’s old!-and then I realized-none of us know what we want when we grow old.
Probably because we’re never asked.
How interesting that we spend our childhoods encouraged to dream of the world of opportunity that awaits us when we grow up, and then adulthood working to make that a reality, but do we ever sit around and daydream about what we want when we grow old?
How would our perceptions of aging-both our own and our aging society-improve if we talked about our goals for growing old? And we normalized it and discussed it throughout life. What if children felt just as normal daydreaming about their life as a grown up as imagining being old?
Anyway, that was my Sunday morning TJ’s internal dialogue!
The rest of the weekend was nice and low key. We walked over to Mile Wine on Friday for Maryland-style crab cakes and some delicious wine tasting. Saturday, I stopped by the Stockmarket and picked up some goodies from my favorite shop before exploring a destination I’ve long been curious about.
Thank goodness I didn’t have a truck or any way to haul the gorgeous furniture, so I just browsed for inspiration.Like the outlet store in Berkeley, the Clearance Center marks down the furniture each week until it sells, but it’s waayyyy less crowded and has a much greater furniture selection than the Berkeley outlet. Our house is pretty sparse right now, but I’m hoping that slowly, over time, we might able to find some pieces that make it more colorful and cozy. So fun.
Saturday night we met up with Eric and Molly and checked out SOUTH in Sacramento.
It’s on the prettiest tree-lined street and it is DELICIOUS. The line wraps around outside the restaurant and it probably took about an hour before we were seated, but it was so worth it. Still thinking about the crunchy, juicy fried chicken and the sweet honey butter and biscuits. I’ve been nervous about living further away from friends with this move and so it was especially nice to see Molly and Eric-they’re always so fun and it’s a treat to live closer to one of my oldest college friends.
The other weekend highlight?
The farmer’s market! The cherries at the market are unreal. We ended up with basically a bucket of cherries and I’ve been snacking away all day. It felt so summery and calming, standing at the kitchen sink, listening to music while picking off the stems, as the nice breeze waltzed through the window.
And now, Monday morning! Hoping for a good week ahead :)