Monthly Archives: January 2019

The Real Year is 2040

I’ve been thinking about this idea all weekend. Cup of Jo posted this Mark Duplass video on Friday, and I love his sweet thoughts on re-framing the exhaustion of parenting and focusing on the present.

This afternoon, Diego and I were cuddled up, reading his garbage truck book. He’s somehow managed to destroy the book, ripping every cardboard page off the spine. So really, we were reading his garbage truck cards. Anyway, I’m pointing out the pictures of the green truck, the orange houses, reading along, but thinking of a million other things. I wasn’t feeling terribly exhausted, but definitely just going through the reading motions. My mind wandered back to that video, and the 2040 idea.

Imagine it’s 2040, and you suddenly get 3 minutes, just 3 minutes, to be back in this moment.

I suddenly focused back to the present. I felt the tiny weight of Diego’s sweet little body, curled up against my chest. His wavy hair, slightly matted in the back from baby nap sweat, poofy up on top. He holds the book up against his baby belly, which I just love because he’s so lanky, but thankfully has a precious belly. His “recessed chin,” that when he was a few weeks old, his pediatrician assured us he would “probably grow out of.” He’s already sort of grown out of it, and that thought makes my heart ache, realizing of how much babyness is in the past. Thankfully, he still has a little baby double chin, which gets even more pronounced when he throws his head back and forth in a fit of giggles, a scene that basically defines joy. “Bid-duck” he says, which we think means Big Truck, and he turns the pages to the next card, the truck squishing all the trash into a compactor.

And then, in less than three minutes, the moment is over. He’s begging for agua and the cup is in the other room, and we’re off to the next distraction.

I’m not great at this whole Being Present in the Moment thing. I’m definitely working on it and love discovering ideas to help. Never thought some of my favorite mindfulness advice would come from an actor on Instagram, I guess that’s parenting in 2019 :)

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Snow :)

The rain continues in Oakland-hooray!-but this weekend, we got to play in the SNOW!

We drove up to North Lake Tahoe Friday afternoon and joined our friends at a beautiful AirBnB.

The weekend was delightfully low-key, full of laughter and way too short. Lake Tahoe is too beautiful-and too long of a drive-for just two nights. Hoping that next time we return, we stay for longer time!

Diego slept most of the drive up, and woke up about 20 minutes before we arrived. THANK YOU, DIEGO. As we approached the house, he kept saying, “Isla!” “Georgia!” We must have told him a hundred times that we were going to see his friends, and he was very excited.

Saturday morning, we bundled up and drove to North Lake Tahoe Regional Park for some sledding. I imagine the snow was perfect a few days earlier, but it was still quite nice for sledding.

We couldn’t figure out if Diego enjoyed sledding, but after every “run,” he kept saying “more, more” so…I think he had fun?

As much as I love getting out, during these trips, I absolutely adore the cozy afternoons together, snacking, playing games, watching toddler concerts.

Saturday night, Zac made a perfectly crisp Moscow Mule, Jon sous-vide’d delicious tri tip, and we had an incredible family dinner. After the babies went to sleep, the Attigas introduced us to Code Names. I can’t stop thinking about how much I want to play that game again.

This photo makes it look super intense-and it was. And so, so fun.

Narges made a beautiful photo book for all the children, and on the last page, she had this photo-from out last winter Tahoe trip in 2015:

That was the last trip before the babies joined the crew :) And here we are, a few years later, in 2019:

Beyond grateful for the friendship with these beautiful families.

Sunday morning started wayyyyy too early, when Diego woke up a few hours after we went to sleep, ready to PLAY. We took our time driving home, stopping in Davis to play in their awesome parks.

Sometimes I feel like I have no concept of time, or time’s passage. If I saw that 2015 photo, without the date in my phone, it would take a moment to figure out just how much life has passed since that snapshot. And then, there’s moments where it hits: whoa. Time is flying. Sunday morning, we were loading up the car, and I had to grab something from downstairs. Isla and Diego were playing in the living room, and just before I ran down the stairs, I said “Isla, I’ll be right back, can you be in charge of Diego and watch him?” It was probably a 20 second assignment, and Isla was wonderful. When I was back upstairs, and saw the two of them, it hit me.

Wait a minute, this sweet child, who didn’t even exist when we started these trips, is now watching my baby, the same baby who was also just a wish, a dream, when we started going to Tahoe in 2014? We started these family trips in 2014? FIVE years ago? We moved back to California almost five years ago?

Wow, time is flying. And I’m so, so grateful for these friendships to anchor these years, and for all the memories we’ve built together.

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Rainy days

Good morning! It’s Wednesday and I’m waiting on the platform for BART. It’s been rainy here-thank goodness-so we’ve been pretty housebound.

Diego totally surprised us a few months ago with his yoga moves. I guess he learned it in daycare? He’s leading David in some morning stretches :)

We went on a longer evening walk last week, taking advantage of the ~slightly~longer days, and walked by this incredibly festive and patriotic house. The little banner under the “Take back the House” sign says: “We did it!!” And thank goodness. Trying to remember the incredible relief we felt in November, as federal actions grow more and more concerning.

Diego is more than slightly obsessed with his rain boots, so we did a lot of puddle jumping this weekend. He got a little too excited, and scratched up his face, but as always, it freaked me out more than it affected him.

That’s all for me on this cloudy Wednesday! I keep going to the library hoping I’ll find a good book, but I can’t seem to settle on anything. Hoping to find something soon. Until then, there’s Maisel, Season 2 :)

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Winter Break

It’s January 2, normal life resumes tomorrow, and I’m soaking up the quiet luxury that is Diego’s afternoon nap. It’s surprisingly cold in Oakland, but thankfully, in the winter, the sun hits the window in the living room, making the whole room bright and warm. I have a zillion photos from this winter break, and I want to scrapbook the whole thing-we’ll see how far I get.

It was just so nice!

When I first learned Diego’s daycare was closing for a three week winter break, I kind of freaked out. Thankfully, with grandparent help, my work’s generous holiday week closure, and vacation days, we’ve almost made it.

And, I think we all really needed this time together. It’s really special to be able to totally focus on Diego and completely sink in to family time.

We spent a few days pre-Christmas, at home, watching movies and seeing friends.

And continued our Christmas Eve Eve tradition of burgers at Bob’s on the Marina and a drive through the lights in Lincoln Village.

We learned that Diego is obsessed with ketchup and ranch dressing…as he only ate condiments for dinner that night…

On Christmas Eve, the Boga’s kindly hosted us for brunch, and it was so special to enjoy the holiday with Diego’s first friend.

Silvia prepared an incredible prime rib and a bounty of desserts and we all gathered at Sonia’s for a delicious and lively Christmas Eve dinner.

On Christmas morning, David’s dad made a decadent brunch and we opened presents-with Diego giving the greatest gift of all: a dance performance to his favorite song.

We continued our other Christmas tradition: a midday flight to Irvine!

And on the flight, Diego’s gift giving continued-he slept the whole time!!!

My mom greeted us with appetizers and champagne and we settled in for a relaxing afternoon.

The Christmas dinner decadence continued with more delicious prime rib (Christmas is the best) and my new favorite, Frog’s Leap wine.

Diego had no trouble transitioning into his best vacation life: he enjoyed mornings with Saba and Abu Vero (while David and I slept in-hooray!!), many rounds of Legos and basketball, daily trips to the park (which he can basically navigate to on his own), and beach yoga with Janou.

My main agenda considerably less busy-just sleep and Crystal Cove :) We got to the ocean on most days. I love the view on clear winter days.

My favorite holiday tradition is Boxing Day drinks with Katie and Kevin. This year was particularly special-we got to celebrate Katie’s baby-to-be! Cant wait to meet baby Tsang in 2019.

We also always try to get to UCLA for a walk around campus and a basketball game. The game was…terrible?…but it was very special being back on campus with friends.

Other happy memories from the week away: devouring Maisel, Season 1, lots of time with Janou, Mom and Dad, a Beachcomber date, and wine and cheese every night. Vacation rules.

We flew back home on New Year’s Eve and enjoyed one last holiday tradition: homemade pasta and champagne to welcome 2019. David made the amatriciana sauce we learned how to make in Rome, and Diego watched the pasta roller with wide eyes. It was all delicious and very cozy.

Grateful, grateful, grateful for all the generosity and love from family this holiday. Happy New Year!

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January 1

Hello, 2019!

Happy New Year! Here’s Diego swinging in to 2019 at FROG Park this morning. After a very, very relaxing week in Irvine, we flew back yesterday to welcome the New Year at home. We greeted 2019 with lots of Diego cuddles this morning, a morning walk and park time, lunch with friends, and tomato soup and grilled cheese for dinner. Sending love and good thoughts for this New Year :)

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